Everyone's kept me busy, I'll say that much.
Sister, I wish you would write about why the church won't accept people who divorce and re-marry unless the first marriage is annulled. I can't get my wife to understand.
The problem is I want to become a Catholic and my wife was married before. She doesn't get why *she* has to do all this nosy paperwork when *I'm* the one who wants to be Catholic. She is happily Protestant. I might get her to convert someday too, but right now I can't even get myself into the church.
Thanks and have a nice day.
Goodness, Freddie. I'll write about it, but you should read my disclaimer, "Life is tough, but nuns are tougher....and don't expect any sympathy."
To begin with, the church is accepting you. If it wasn't you wouldn't have any paper work to do. So your real question is "why is the church making me do all this paperwork?"
Because that's our job. I know it doesn't seem like it should be our job, considering Jesus was all about love and forgiveness. Paperwork doesn't seem very Jesus-y. But keep in mind that Jesus could, in fact, read and write.
Here's the thing, Freddie. We have to get this straightened out because, as the Catholic church does not recognize the divorce...anyone's...,you are living with a woman who is still married to someone else. Not only are you not married in the eyes of the church, you are actually living in adultery. Surely they've explained this to you.
And as big as this problem is since your sins are being compounded (one would imagine, but let's not for the sake of our own near occasions of sin) as time drags on, the really big problem is your 'wife's' lack of interest in resolving the issue. May I make this suggestion: remind her of her 'wedding' vows "to love and to cherish". Helping you become a Catholic is a very good way to love and cherish you.
That, and separate beds.
You have more hurdles ahead, poor man. Once her previous marriage is annulled (which means the contract was null and void and therefore didn't exist) she is free to marry you. I'm pretty sure the church won't make you spring for another wedding. But you will be married to a non-Catholic.
The Catholic church is okay with that....but not happy about it.You can already see the problems it causes; a veritable field of near occasion of sin land mines.
And ironically, grounds for annulment in the future.
We also have this question, an oldie but goodie that we still get all the time:
Are the people who went to hell for eating meat on Friday there for eternity?
Are they supplied with wieners and sticks?
The people who went to hell for eating meat on Friday were Grandfathered into heaven with all the babies from Limbo when Limbo closed in the sixties. Since they were going to heaven, they left their wieners and sticks for the devil to poke the other people in hell. The people that ate before receiving Communion......